I mean Willie is and has been a lot of things, but an interpersonal skills guru?
Over the past few weeks one phrase from Willie and his buddy Waylon Jenning’s mega-hit Mamas Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to Be Cowboys keeps popping into my head. (Actually the song was written by Ed and Patsy Bruce.)
Feel free to sing along . . .
“He ain’t wrong, he’s just different but his pride won’t let him do things to make you think he’s right.”
While I gave you the full line, the (massive) lesson is at the front of the phrase. . . “he ain’t wrong, he’s just different.”
If we keep this idea in mind we will be more successful in a whole range of sales, team and leadership situations – really in any situation where relationships matter.
- The next time you don’t understand someones resistance to a new idea of change, repeat the phrase to yourself a couple of times . . . “he ain’t wrong, he’s just different.”
- The next time you are having trouble communicating with someone, repeat the phrase to yourself a couple of times . . . “he ain’t wrong, he’s just different.”
- The next time dealing with a conflict, repeat the phrase to yourself a couple of times . . . “he ain’t wrong, he’s just different.”
- Anytime you are anticipating a challenge with someone else, start by reminding yourself, “he ain’t wrong, he’s just different.”
The grammar might not be proper, and the song may not fit your musical tastes, but when we remind ourselves of this fact we set ourselves up to have a more open mind, and to treat the other person differently, with more respect and less judgement.
In other words, we will have more satisfying and successful communications with them.
The reality is that we will always see things differently than others. That doesn’t make us right and them wrong, and yet the root of many of conflicts, arguments and communication challenges lies in people focusing on being right.
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