Each week I write and send something called Powerquotes Plus– a free email that shares a quotation, questions to ponder and action steps. I include quotations that will challenge and inspire readers. the other criteria I have adopted over time is to only include quotations from people who people can learn more about if they choose.
Once in awhile I find a quotation I love, but that I can’t learn much (or anything) about the author. Such is the case witht he quotation I discovered today.
“Being listened to is so close to being loved that most people cannot tell the difference.”
I don’t know who David Oxberg is (if you do, let me know more in the comments!) but I love this idea.
Most people are truly listened to so infrequently, that it is easy to equate listening with love. To fully listen is truly an act of love.
Of course to be a remarkable leader requires we be willing to and practice deep, authentic listening. Let me take a shot at describing these relationships mathematically.
Listening = Love
Listening = Leadership
Leadership = Love.
Maybe the relationships aren’t quite as direct or complete as this, but I think the connection is closer to truth than fiction.
How do you feel when people truly listen to you? Do you feel a sense of love? (so do others). When people are truly listening to you, are you attracted to them, and more likely willing to follow them? (that’s leadership).
If you aren’t sure of my “new math,” try this experiment.
Decide to truly and deeply listen to three people today. Do it authentically and completely. Then notice the reactions, responses and feelings of the other people, and of yourself.
I think you will find a deep connection between these three words. Your comments here will be valued by me and everyone else who reads this post.