Unless this is the first thing you have read from me, you will know my answer. Mckay summarizes my feelings on this issue perfectly. I believe your answer to this core question is critical to the level of influence and success you will experience in life.
– Am I an optimist or a pessimist?
– Would people who know me well agree with my answer?
– Have I ever considered it to be a choice?
1. Ask yourself the questions above and consider them carefully.
2. If you haven’t thought about this as a choice, do so now – and think about if you like the choice you have made.
3. If you would prefer a different choice, identify three situations where making that shift could make a difference in your life and results.
I am an optimist. It might be my nature, but it is also the choice that I make 95% of the time. Rather than talking more about my choice, I want to talk about the challenge leaders give me in coaching sessions and workshops regularly. How do I change someone’s attitude? While I don’t believe you can coach attitude, I do believe you can influence the choice others make.
Think about it this way. Have you ever tried to convince a pessimist to be more optimistic (or vice versa)? Likely you didn’t get very far – and today’s quotation is why. People will justify and can “prove” they are right – there are plenty of examples of things going well and things going poorly in the world. Rather than trying to convince them, live from your choice. If your choice is getting you better results, causing less stress and frustration, you will be a walking, talking example to others. Then, rather than trying to convince them you are right, convince them that they have a choice.